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when you’ve felt rejected – Ann Voskamp / A Message From Sarah : Friendships Can Hurt

From Sarah : Friendships Can Hurt

I have written briefly about losing a friendship that tore me in two. She was another Angel Mom . Someone I called Sister. Family. I was closer to her than almost anyone else. Or so I thought.

When she wrote me : accusing me of betraying her…. I was shocked.  Rocked to my core. Hurt. 

Just a day before she had shared a huge secret with me. Then the next she ended our friendship.

For a year and a half. I was blocked from her Facebook . She left a door open though : I still had access to her son’s memorial page.  I was able to write there. Leave messages.

I left a few. On birthdays and holidays. Did I try hard enough to reach her? No, Not really. I shut myself off like I have done for so long.

Friendships are hard at times. I have a couple of girl friends from grade school and high school. 

There is still a distance there. One totally of my own making. 

I will continue to write on this subject. 

Now for the post that started this conversation.  

When You’ve Felt Rejected By

Ann Voskamp.

Her guest writer wrote the following book : 

By Christine Hoover 

My heart began beating quickly as I reread the first few lines and saw that, in fact, I’d read it right the first time.
The biting words sunk in deep.
A friend had misunderstood me and not given me the benefit of the doubt, and she was writing to let me know I had disappointed her.
We’ve all been hurt by someone we considered a friend, whether it’s an inconsiderate word or an unexpected betrayal.


My real name is Debra (Debbie Sue). Sarah is a nickname given to me in high school. My husband has always called me that so here in Florida It's all I am known by. I was born and raised in Illinois. My son and I moved to Colorado in 1982. I taught school for 17 years. Then I ran a homeschooling/preschool/daycare until 2006 when I moved to Florida after my son, Bobby died suddenly. He was almost 26. Danny and I live and work at a state park here. I miss the mountains and climate of Colorado. I miss snow and the four seasons. I miss Bobby.

3 thoughts on “when you’ve felt rejected – Ann Voskamp / A Message From Sarah : Friendships Can Hurt

  1. Yes, I’ve been in your shoes, Sarah, and it appears to be a common problem–especially among women. I’ve tried to reach out and resolve the impasse that occurred in two of my past friendships gone awry. But sometimes there is no starting over or picking up where we left off. I didn’t offend my two friends necessarily. There were major differences though in our ways of thinking and believing. They ultimately chose to cut things off with me. I still wish that those friendships would have healed, but understand that there was some purpose for the season that I was good friends with each of those women. And God has blessed me with so many new and rich friendships now, that I don’t feel that loss like I once did. Thanks for sharing, and I’ll check out Ann’s blog for this guest writer as well!

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