Are You Distracted and Distant or Making Your Home a Haven?
October 4, 2010 by Courtney
By Women Living Well And Good Morning Girls
From Sarah :
This post was written 9 years ago. The first year Courtney and Women Living Well/Good Morning Girls did Making Your Home A Haven. I was with them then. The title asks us a really great question.
Are we distracted and distant or are we really making our home a haven. ?
I’d have to admit, I am definitely distract and distant much of the time.
I always try to get off the computer when Danny walks through the room. I stop and wait . I look at him. Yet, I don’t always talk. I am so use to Danny not wanting to talk that I have slowly stopped asking him to much of the time. Then, when he finally does talk, I am not always full present. It’s been my way of coping.
Shutting down though is never good.
We all may need a slight break. A bit of quiet in our day.
I have been too quiet. It beats sounding bitter.
I know this has an effect on how it feels when Danny comes home. It’s often hard to be really happy to see him. I like my days when he is working. I know I can simply be me. There’s not tension. I am calmer. When Danny is home anymore, I am never really calm.
Too many months/years when he wasn’t in a good mood. When he would pick fights I couldn’t win. Even though he’s been better, I still wait for the other side to show up.
Our home always looks good on the surface. Or at least it almost always does.
I need to work on my mood when he gets home. I need to leave the tension behind.
“It is week 1 of the Making Your Home a Haven Fall Challenge. Here is this week’s challenge:Go buy an extra large candle and light a candle everyday in your home. I will be starting mine in the morning! But you can start yours at dinner time. Do what makes sense for your family. I will be placing mine in the kitchen – the main hub of my home. Each time the candle catches your eye, say a prayer for peace in your home.
What makes a home a haven? Is it having a home that looks like it popped out of Better Homes and Gardens with unbelievable decorating? Is it a home that has massive amounts of toys, food to feast on, video games stacked high and every movie imaginable to view? Is it a certain number of square feet, a separate bedroom for each child, or the neighborhood you live in?
No. It is not the things that we have or the things that we do not have that make our homes a haven. It’s you – my dear reader – you are the key to making the home a haven. “
” Light a candle and begin praying over your home every time the glimmer of the candle catches your eye.”