I Dreamed Of Bobby Last Night.

I had the most wonderful dream last night. Then I woke up and realized ONCE AGAIN THAT IT WAS ONLY A DREAM. Reality set in all too soon. Bobby was gone. I live for those dreams , Yet , at the same time I dead them.For a BRIEF MOMENT when I wake up, Bobby is…

Tis The Season — Every Day with the King

Originally posted December 2018 The season is here! What came to your mind as you turned your calendar to December this year? Advent Family Traditions Celebration Shopping Gift-giving Decorating Baking Ideally, it is a season of […] Tis The Season — Every Day with the King From Sarah :I just lost a huge paragraph on grieving…

Memories of Bobby. Why Danny Calls Me Sarah And Not Debbie 

https://www.google.com/amp/s/sarahsatticoftreasures.com/2016/01/18/reposting-from-sarahs-attic-of-treasures-facebook-january-2013/amp/ From Sarah :  11 years ago today,  May 2006, Danny and I , my parents  and Kari  drove to what is now called Bobby’s Mountain. Bobby’s Mountain is little hill above the house my grandparents owned.  That our family built in the 70’s.  Bobby always called it Grandma’s Mountain.  It sits between Cripple Creek…

BITTERSWEET: The Confession I Haven’t Wanted to Make: For Those Who Fight Depression or Know Someone Who Might

http://www.bethsaadati.com/2017/03/the-confession-i-havent-wanted-to-make.html?m=1 By Beth Saadati That’s all it took for things to get, well, dark. For my words—both written and spoken—to dry up. For bitterness to root. For hopelessness to overwhelm me. For that nagging question—how can God redeem this?—to mock the faith that’s carried me through.  The crazy thing is, I don’t think anyone other than my…

You Can Do Hard Things

You can do hard things Carey Scott, 17 Dec 10:29 AM When the season triggers bad memories… When finances restrict your heart’s desire… When the feelings of love are gone… When you’re missing someone who was dear… When the treatment is still making you sick… When you’re in a room full of those you can’t seem…

Grieving Moms & Dads will never get OVER their loss…Why? – Cathie Gray

**GRIEF TIP #5 ** (see other Grief Tips on our page)

“What if the person you are attempting to comfort, said to you that they lost their kid in a car crash that involved a drunk driver? When you tried to comfort them, you immediately replied ‘I know how you feel’ followed by, sharing that your neighbor’s cousin, lost her kid in a car crash involving a drunk driver too. Did you just attempt to comfort them, saying ‘I know how you feel’ and followed, with THAT story? Did you think that was comforting? Allow me to educate you as we review the facts.

Did you lose sleep when your neighbor’s cousin’s loss occurred? Were you incapable of digesting food, after learning of that death? Did you cry so hard, that you actually lost your vision? Did you lose your will to live? Did you entertain wanting to end your OWN life, when your neighbor’s cousin’s kid died? NO. You did not. That is not what YOU felt, AT ALL. So YOU are NOT feeling, AT ALL, what the person you are attempting to comfort is feeling. All that you just did, in your efforts to minimize her pain, was told this devastated, crushed, suicidal mother OF A DEAD PERSON YOU KNOW. You told her of another departed individual that made you feel absolutely NONE of what SHE IS FEELING. You only shared your familiarity, of a story which has infinitesimal similarities, of what her melted heart, was barely able to mouth to you, while she was seeking some relief, from her situation. Can you see that now?

Grieving Moms & Dads will never get OVER their loss…Why? – Cathie Gray

I’ll give you a simple answer first. 1) Losing a child or grandchild is INORGANIC. It goes against the circle of life and the natural DNA cycle and strips ‘the older outliving the younger’ of their natural bearings. Period. 2) A parent or grandparent doesn’t just lose a kid one day one year. They lose their entire future and all that they envisioned it to be. The weddings they won’t plan, the grandchildren & great-grandchildren that won’t be born, and the discontinuance of their legacy is only a part of it. 3) Triggers. All of the setbacks, reminders, and special occassions that society continues to celebrate, while a huge hole in their family unit still exists. All of their holidays are now HOLLOW-days!!

Stress, depression and the holidays: Tips for coping – Mayo Clinic

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20047544/ Mayo Clinic Healthy Lifestyle  Stress Management In-depth.  Stress, depression and the holidays: Tips for coping Stress and depression can ruin your holidays and hurt your health. Being realistic, planning ahead and seeking support can help ward off stress and depression. By Mayo Clinic Staff The holiday season often brings unwelcome guests — stress and…

Hospitality Hints | Showing Love to Grieving Friends – LifeWay Women All Access

Hospitality Hints is a monthly feature on our blog with some helpful hints for being hospitable in everyday life. Our hints may involve inviting people over, but not always! Most of the time, they will be about having a posture of hospitality—welcoming others into our lives.

Almost exactly a year ago, unspeakable tragedy rocked the world of one of my closest friends. As I sat in a memorial service on a sunny Sunday afternoon, I remember looking toward my friend and her grieving family and thinking, helplessly and hopelessly, “What now?”

As I’ve walked with my sweet friend (and, at times, watched her walk alone) through the last 12 months, I’ve learned that grief takes many forms, depending on the person and situation and day and hour and moment. There is no cure-all or band-aid or Grief for Dummies workbook. But there are a few consistent truths about grief that can help you show hospitality to those you know walking through the process.